THE MAKING OF A GREAT SEX SCENE by Diana Gabaldon

Bestselling author Diana Gabaldon on writing a great sex scene.

With the release of THE SCOTTISH PRISONER in November 2011 and THE OUTLANDER topping the number one position in virtually every romance reader  poll, who better than to ask about:  The Making Of A Great Sex Scene.

Where most beginning writers screw up (you should pardon the expression) is in thinking that sex scenes are about sex. A good sex scene is about the exchange of emotions, not bodily fluids. That being said, it can encompass any emotion whatsoever, from rage or desolation to exultation, tenderness or surprise. Lust is not an emotion; it’s a one-dimensional hormonal response. Ergo, while you can mention lust in a sex scene, describing it at any great length is like going on about the pattern of the wallpaper in the bedroom—worth a quick glance, maybe, but essentially boring.

So how do you show the exchange of emotions? Dialogue, expression or action—that’s about the limit of your choices, and of those, dialogue is by far the most flexible and powerful tool a writer has. What people say reveals the essence of their character.

Pillow talk

“I know once is enough to make it legal, but…” He paused shyly.

“You want to do it again?”

“Would ye mind verra much?”

I didn’t laugh this time either, but I felt my ribs creak under the strain.

“No,” I said gravely. “I wouldn’t mind.”

Now, you do, of course, want to make the scene vivid and three-dimensional. You have an important advantage when dealing with sex, insofar as you can reasonably expect that most of your audience knows how it’s done. Therefore, you can rely on this commonality of experience and don’t need more than brief references to create a mental picture. You want to anchor the scene with physical details, but by and large, it’s better to use sensual details, rather than overtly sexual ones. (Just read any scene that involves nipples and you’ll see what I mean. The writer either goes into ghastly contortions to avoid using the word—“tender pink crests” comes vividly to mind—or includes blunt and hideous detail, so that you can all but hear the panting. This is distracting—don’t do it.)

In essence, a good sex scene is usually dialogue with physical details.

Sensual details

“I’ll gie it to ye,” he murmured, and his hand moved lightly. A touch. Another. “But ye’ll take it from me tenderly, a nighean donn.”

“I don’t want tenderness, damn you!”

“I ken that well enough,” he said, with a hint of grimness. “But it’s what ye’ll have, like it or not.”

He laid me down on his kilt, and came back into me, strongly enough that I gave a small, high-pitched cry of relief.

“Ask me to your bed,” he said. “I shall come to ye. For that matter—I shall come, whether ye ask it or no. But I am your man; I serve ye as I will.”

And finally, you can use metaphor and lyricism to address the emotional atmosphere of an encounter directly. (This is kind of advanced stuff, though.)

Poetic lyricism

If she was broken, she would slash him with her jagged edges, reckless as a drunkard with a shattered bottle.

She raked his back; he felt the scrape of broken nails, and thought dimly that was good — she’d fought. That was the last of his thought; his own fury took him then, rage and a lust that came on him like black thunder on a mountain, a cloud that hid all from him and him from all, so that kind familiarity was lost and he was alone, strange in darkness.

Like that.

Gabaldon is the author of the Outlander series and has sold some 19 million books worldwide— not least because of her sex scenes.

The Scottish Prisoner, Diana Gabaldon, $33.
Chatelaine Book Club, Diana Gabaldon, The Scottish Prisoner

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